OPTION B: FACING ADVERSITY, BUILDING RESILIENCE, AND FINDING JOY
A memoir of the loss of a husband and finding a path forward beyond the grieving process.
Sheryl is the COO of Facebook, who wrote a book called “Lean In”. In 2015, her husband, Dave, passed away suddenly on a trip in Mexico and nothing could have prepared her for that. She had to figure out how to carry on as a mother of two and try to mend all the shattered pieces together, which led to her writing this book. This book merely addresses the following:
Question: What do you do when option A has been taken away?
Answer: Take option B and use it wisely.
Thus the title OPTION B.
Sheryl wrote this book with Adam Grant, a highly rated professor at Wharton. In this book Sandberg explores how to weather the storm of grief, applying concrete skills in addition to more complex theories of psychology about how to find meaning in life-changing circumstances. Going deeper and broader than the commonly understood stages of grief, the authors look at different factors that can stunt recovery after a loss and they refer to them as 3 P’s:
- Personalisation – the belief that we are at fault. Not everything is your fault, stop blaming yourself
- Pervasiveness – the belief that an event will affect all areas of our life.
- Permanence – the belief that the aftershocks of an event will last forever.
She talks about the things that helped her during the process of grieving.
I really enjoyed how simplistic this book was, the examples used are things that happen in our everyday lives and it is easy to relate to each one because its something we understand fairly well. I also enjoyed the research invested in this work making it easier to understand some of the things they were trying to describe. I was really captivated by the way she handled grief with her kids, she helped them, did not hide anything from them even when she was not strong herself, but she was there for them.
I felt like some of the other chapters dragged too long, with the examples and what not but still was a good book.
Definitely an eye opener for everyone and a lot of tips we can use to deal with some of the adversities we face in our lives.
“Life is never perfect. We all live some form of option B. This book is to help us all kick the shit out of it.”
Have you guys read this book, what were your thoughts?
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