Based on ancient Toltec wisdom, The Four Agreements offers a powerful code of conduct that can rapidly transform our lives to a new experience of freedom, true happiness, and love. Attention is the ability we have to discriminate and to focus only on that which we want to perceive. Though you could get through this book in a day or two, its powerful message will resonate for years to come.
According to Ruiz, we have been domesticated since the moment of our birth to understand and accept all that surrounds us and embodies us. He calls the beliefs born of this process of domestication, Agreements. He goes on to explain that the overwhelming majority of these agreements are detrimental to us and to our journey towards spiritual transcendence. Acknowledgment and acceptance of this idea sets the stage for the transformation that we must undertake by switching out those harmful agreements for the following four beneficial agreements:
- Be impeccable with your word – your word is the power that you have to create. Avoid using the Word to speak against yourself or to gossip about others. Use the power of your Word in the direction of truth and love. Make a new agreement based on your truth.
- Don’t take anything personally – Nothing others do is because of you. What others say and do is a projection of their own reality, their own dream. When you are immune to the opinions and actions of others, you won’t be the victim of needless suffering.
- Don’t make assumptions – Find the courage to ask questions and to express what you really want. Communicate with others as clearly as you can to avoid misunderstandings, sadness and drama. With just this one agreement, you can completely transform your life.
- Always do your best – Your best is going to change from moment to moment; it will be different when you are healthy as opposed to sick. Under any circumstance, simply do your best, and you will avoid self-judgment, self-abuse, and regret.
I was really captivated by the way Ruiz explained everything throughout the book. It was easier to map out what was being said and what really happens in real life. The examples provided in the book are so simple to understand.
5 out of 5
I would really recommend this book to everyone, it will definitely change your life.
“The freedom we are looking for is the freedom to be ourselves, to express ourselves.”
“Happiness is a choice and so is suffering.”